Are you dreading the approach of Valentine’s Day? Do you stress over being judged for being single when the holiday is for happy romantic couples? Who says the holiday is only for those in a relationship, when the day is about love? Yes, show your love and appreciation for that special someone in your life, but also for yourself, your family, and friends.
Being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a negative experience, focusing on what you’re missing out on, when thinking of how the holiday is expected to be spent. If you find yourself without a significant other to spend Valentine’s Day with, don’t despair we provided some recommendations to ensure you can still enjoy the holiday.
1. Spend it with Friends. Inspired from the show Parks and Recreation, the episode Galentine’s Day, Leslie Knope (Amy Leslie Knope) offers to throw a breakfast for her and her girlfriends, celebrating the women in their lives. I like the idea because it’s a fun way to enjoy the day with your friends and thanking them for all that they do for you. I think the theme can be tweaked for the male friends in your life, those that you consider as a friend not a boyfriend. It doesn’t have to include gifts like in the episode, just a place that you all love going to.
2. Do Something Nice for Yourself. Splurge on something you usually don’t purchase often. For example, if you brew coffee at home, go to a local café and buy yourself a special treat. You can also lavish yourself by going to a spa and getting a facial, massage, or a manicure/pedicure. Whatever you choose, don’t stress out over the cost knowing it’s a special occasion. Let it relax you, taking time out for self-care is important to reducing stress.
3. Throw a Movie Marathon. When you get off work or school, make some snacks, put on your comfy clothes and throw on your favorite television shows or films. Many streaming platforms will be featuring romantic comedies and romantic themed films, but don’t feel pressured to watch them if they’re not for you. There’s no rule that you must watch them, go for a comedy or even a thriller.
4. Purchase Chocolates and Flowers for Yourself. Who doesn’t love chocolate? Splurge on a sweet treat for yourself to enjoy the day. Everyone else offers chocolates for the ones they love, so why not replicate the gesture for yourself. Instead of spending a fortune on red roses, buy an arrangement of your favorite flowers to add a beautiful centerpiece to your home or office.
Valentines Day Flowers
5. Enjoy the Arts as a Creative Outlet. Go visit a museum and explore their exhibits, listen to your favorite musicians and sing along or dance, go see a musical or play; just delve yourself in something creative to distract yourself of how the day is typically spent. Involve your friends or family in an arts and crafts project. Use a creative outlet to express yourself, bringing joy to your day.
6. Spend it with Family. Your family members love you unconditionally, and at the holiday is about love. Share a meal together or involve them in one of the suggestions listed above. Your family wants you to be happy and any of the activities above will show your appreciation for them being in your life.
7. Explore Nature by Going for a Walk or Explore the Community. Walk around your neighborhood, try walking to a park nearby or just spend some time in nature. meditate by being outside connected to Mother Earth. Exercise and meditation can be used to help reduce stress and promote positive thinking.
8. Make Cards or Chocolate Gifts to Give away. Who doesn’t love getting Valentine’s Day cards with cute sayings on it? Cards can be handmade and donated to a church or hospital. Many sick children spend holidays inside a hospital and a kind gesture could help lift their spirits. A small tin full of homemade chocolate and other candies can also make someone smile and remind them that they are appreciated.
Valentines Day Cards
9. Play Games with Friends or Family. Gather some fun snacks and spend the day playing video games, card games, or board games. You can even include the love of music and participate in Karaoke. You can use candies to wager during competitive game play to make it more exciting.
10. Support a Small Business or Special Interest. Travel to a new bookstore or a small café to support small businesses. They may have Valentine’s Day specials for you to try. Your support helps the community, while you’re doing something special for yourself.
I hope these recommendations were helpful. Feel free to use these suggestions to inspire a new tradition for Valentine’s Day. The important thing to take away from this, is to enjoy the day instead of dwelling on what is missing from your life. It is easy to compare your life to others and fall into a negative way of thinking. By shifting the focus of what the holiday means for you, you can escape the downward spiral of negative thoughts
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